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Cecelia Schmieder's avatar

Good conversation and necessary work. A giant pity party indeed, with a lot of collateral damage. No Google Scholar avenue to reaching these men--depressing but unsurprising--like the old saying that you can't reason someone out of something they didn't reason themselves into. Glad there are people who tackle the manosphere-addled, but I'm afraid my empathy has checked out for my own safety. Prevention does seem loads more efficient, not to mention saving a lot of revolting behavior.

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Jerry Shaver's avatar

Man, these "alpha males" sure do whine a lot.

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Michelle Jordan's avatar

It takes very strong people standing up to them. And it includes family and peers who recognize their pathetic behavior standing up to them as well. Sooner or later some of them might actually learn their behavior is socially unacceptable. Shunning them at every opportunity until they learn is the best way to deal with them.

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David Gardiner's avatar

By that stage the damage has already been done, Michelle. Faulty conditioning has already hardened, and the solvent of reason takes more time and effort to correct it. An ounce of prevention.

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Grizzly96's avatar

It seems that would just aggravate their antisocial behavior .

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David Gardiner's avatar

We need to start early fostering of empathy for it to become our default reaction to physical or mental trauma. It's essential conditioning that many of us lack, and are worse off for it.

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David Beaulieu's avatar

That's an excellent idea. The more deeply we empathize, the better the world is...and the better we are.

"The many beings are numberless, I vow to save them." The first Bodhisattva Vow.

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Wendy horgan's avatar

But not just pity party. The most radicalized men commit hate crimes against women. They kill women for no other reason than that they are women.

It's hate. It's violent. It's abhorrent.

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